The Irish Peace Centres have released the report "Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Communites' Experiences of Faith and Church in Northern Ireland" (read the report in full ). We've asked Pádraig Ó Tuama, from Irish Peace Centres, to introduce the report. Please feel free to discuss the report on this thread and, if you feel comfortable, to share your experiences too.
I was speaking with a church leader about this report yesterday. He said to me "I'm sure it'll be a damning condemnation of the church". Actually, it isn't. It is a multi-layered report that represents many different experiences of church and faith. Many of the most difficult stories are made more difficult because the people who had been asked to leave churches loved that church. At times it is full of love, and at other times, that love is full of sadness.
Dr Claire Mitchell & Dr. Gail McConnell have written a compelling piece of research. The stories speak of the lived-reality of what is sometimes called the "gay debate". Participants describe having to come out as gay to their Christian friends, and come at as Christian to their gay friends. The participants speak of how they wish to be named, and how they wish to be treated. The participants define themselves, with their own words, and with their own faith stories. The participants tell the stories of what it's like to be on the receiving end of "Hate the Sin, Love the Sinner".
Why is a peace organisation like the Irish Peace Centres concerning itself with questions of LGBT discussions with Religious leadership? Part of the answer comes from the priorities set by the , who tasked IPC to address divides - the traditional ones, as well as emerging "social and psychological divides".
At the end of his year as moderator of the Presbyterian Church in Ireland, Rev. Dr. Norman Hamilton spoke with Alan Meban about religious conservatism in Northern Ireland. His words are enlightening. "There's just an in-built conservatism in our DNA and I think that has been accentuated by the Troubles. The need to be protective of who we are and what we stand for."
Clearly some people wish for more inclusion of LGBT people, and others are dismayed by it. What interests me is the following question - how do we speak with each other?
What has often passed for public discourse has been little more than the mutual exchange of insult. Accusations of bigotry and perversion can be exchanged from one side to another. What is achieved through this? It seems to me that little is achieved. Furthermore, the ones who bear the fallout of this mutual exchange of insults are the ones whose lives are most affected - the ones who may have to fear for the safety of their own home, their jobs, and their relationships.
The word 'fear' is an important one. There are some who fear that society-wide inclusion of LGBT people will bring with it things that are fearsome. There are others who fear that ongoing secrecy and exclusion of LGBT will continue to affect peoples' lives detrimentally. Whatever it is that we may fear, we must talk to one another. We must find ways to speak, using our own words for ourselves, and using words to describe someone else that are generous to them, rather than insulting to them.
In this report, there is an abundance of faith. There is a deep sense of hope for inclusion and for the way forward. There is a rich sense of love - love for partners, love for faith, churches, and love for a flourishing life.
The report will be launched at 3.30pm on Wednesday 7 September at the Crescent Arts Centre. You can contact Pádraig Ó Tuama on faith@cooperationireland.org.