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Forced Adoption and the Mums on the Run

The 'mums on the run' who have fled the country to avoid having their children forcibly adopted, and the networks of sympathisers which help them set up new lives overseas.

Hundreds of parents have already fled the UK to avoid having their children forcibly adopted by social services. And more will follow, it's predicted , as the number of contested adoptions continues to rise. John Waite meets some of the "mums on the run" and some of the clandestine support networks that are helping them. Providing shelter, food, advice and money - all the things that are necessary for a new life abroad.

He also hears of growing international concern about the actions of British social workers, most notoriously in the case last month of an Italian woman who was forced into giving birth and having her child put up for adoption because she was deemed to be a risk to its safety.

Presenter: John Waite
Producer: Joe Kent
Editor: Andrew Smith.

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Brian Rothery

Brian Rothery
Journalist turned activist Brian Rothery.

Safe house

Safe house
A safe house, used to house mothers and their children who have fled the UK.

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Safe house - bedroom
A bedroom in the safe house.

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FACE THE FACTS

Forced Adoption and The Mums on the Run

Presenter: John Waite

Producer: 听Joe Kent

TRANSMISSION: Wednesday 15th January 2014听 1230-1300听听 成人论坛 RADIO 4

Rothery

This used to be the safe house but unfortunately it鈥檚 become a little well known to the local social services.

Waite

It鈥檚 very roomy.

Rothery

[Indistinct words] that it used to be an old cow shed and you can see it鈥檚 got oil fired heating.

Waite

And a big kitchen.

Rothery

Well reasonable sized kitchen, bathroom, pretty rustic.

Waite

In rural Wexford in the South of Ireland, Brian Rothery shows me the building that鈥檚 provided a secret refuge for families on the run from British social services.

Rothery

So we鈥檙e going up the stairs now to the loft.听 Two beds for parents.听 Mattresses have been brought up here for children.

Waite

So how many families would this have been a safe house for?

Rothery

Well over the summer four were here.

Waite

The 79 year old journalist turned human rights activist offers a safe haven for parents who are victims of what he believes is an increasingly draconian British child protection system. Parents who fear losing their children forever, sometimes at birth. Parents considered to be so unsuitable that their children can be taken for adoption against their wishes.

Clip 鈥 Montage

The most daunting thing was thinking that the baby could be removed from me.听 I could not live with that.

We were coming with no job, no money.听 It鈥檚 very hard for us at the moment.

It would be nice to go back to England but that鈥檚 just not possible.

Waite

Today on Face the Facts we hear from parents on the run from social services and what鈥檚 known as 鈥渇orced adoption鈥.听 How a series of underground networks is helping these fugitive parents. And we reveal for the first time the extent of forced adoption and the mounting international concern about it and the way these cases are being dealt with in the UK.

First though Andrew Webb, President of the Association of Directors of听Children's Services, has been telling me how the system should work when social services are so concerned that they move to take a child away from its parents. They will have done everything possible, he told me, to work with the family but if those efforts are deemed to have failed, then they will apply to the court for a care order.

Webb

To get a care order the local authority has to demonstrate that the child has suffered significant harm or is likely to suffer significant harm.听 What that means is emotional abuse or physical or sexual abuse or neglect and a care order essentially gives the local authority the rights of parents.听 So the council can decide what sort of placement the child will live in 鈥 whether it鈥檚 a foster placement or perhaps a specialist residential placement for an older child.

Waite

And what happens then?

Webb

If a child cannot return home 鈥 and many children do return home 鈥 then the local authority has to look at the child鈥檚 best interests and find a permanent solution.听 Now permanence can take many forms, one of them being adoption.

Waite

Last year nearly 1900 children were formally adopted without the consent of their parents, an increase of around 20% on the year before. The equivalent of five children forcibly adopted every day.

And that鈥檚 beside the thousands of others placed with prospective adopters, but not yet formally adopted. So, although 330 children were placed for adoption with the consent of their biological parents, in almost 10 times that number of cases local authorities obtained a court order instead.

Social workers like Andrew Webb however stand by those rises.

Webb

Following a series of high profile cases, the most high profile of them being the death of Peter Connolly, the child protection system started intervening earlier in the lives of children who鈥檇 been abused and neglected and we saw a rise in the number of children coming into care and then the number of those going for adoption rose.听 So yes more referrals were made and social workers were more likely to intervene.

Waite

And it鈥檚 because of that increased willingness to intervene, even before a baby is born, but based on an assessment that it might be at risk when it is, that鈥檚 leading some parents taking drastic action.听

I have travelled hundreds of miles to the outskirts of a European city.听 The people I鈥檓 going to meet don鈥檛 want me to reveal where because they are in hiding.听 The 19 year old couple, recently married, let鈥檚 call them Sarah and James, are expecting their first child but they know that social services would take that child into care if it were born in England.听 So they鈥檙e setting up a whole new life here, paid for and helped by James鈥 mother.

James鈥 Mother

I will have to sell my house to support them.听 The future鈥檚 not rosy but I wouldn鈥檛 have it any other way.听 They need time to prove that they can be good parents, that they are loving to each other and they will be loving to a baby.

Waite

That 鈥測oung loving couple鈥 first met four years ago.

Sarah

We got placed together in a religious class to start with and I think I secretly fancied him really but just never really let you know did I?

James

No.

Sarah

No.听 But we started hanging around in the same group didn鈥檛 we?听 And then slowly our relationship progressed.听 We thought we were best friends but we were a lot more.

Waite

And a lot more was to follow. Pregnancy, marriage and an argument that they say was to change everything. The police were called and because Sarah was already known to social services, having spent much of her life in care, they were informed. And it's because of that argument, the couple told me, that social services would eventually conclude that their unborn child was at risk of harm.

Sarah

We know we were wrong and if we could turn back time we would but we can鈥檛.

Waite

And this argument what was violent, was alcohol fuelled?

Sarah

No just a heated argument over baby names.听 No charges were pressed, nobody was hurt 鈥 nothing.

James

We tried so many times to try to get them to see it from our point of view but everything we ever said to them was twisted and turned into a way which suited their argument.

Waite

Well I鈥檝e seen just some of the documents from social services and it鈥檚 clear they do have serious concerns beyond merely a single argument. The child is at 鈥渋mminent risk of harm鈥 they believe and if necessary the police will be used to stop the couple removing the baby from hospital after it鈥檚 been born. But that won鈥檛 happen as they鈥檝e skipped the country - adamant that social services have got it wrong. So now, at just 19, the couple have started a new life 鈥 a daunting prospect for anyone - in a new country but a country in which, unlike the UK, their baby wouldn鈥檛 be adopted without their consent.

Well of course you were married just a few days ago, for most people that would mean they鈥檙e on their honeymoon, you鈥檙e in effect on the run.

Sarah

Well this is my honeymoon because this has actually turned my life around and I feel like I can happily give birth to the baby without her being taken off the birthing table.

Waite

Aren鈥檛 you a bit frightened?

Sarah

Yes but not so much now I鈥檝e moved.

Waite

What James and Sarah and many others like them have done is not illegal. As they left the UK before the baby was born it cannot be the subject of a court order. If it were then they and anyone who helped them could be guilty of child abduction. The family knows this because they are being advised by a group James' mother found online, a network of people willing to aid those mums on the run from social services.听

James鈥 Mum

You think you鈥檙e the only person this can possibly have happened to.听 When you start doing research you start looking into forced adoptions, you start to see that there鈥檚 a mass of fear and very few answers.听 This network was invaluable.听 We鈥檝e got such good advice and it made up feel like we weren鈥檛 criminals, that we were just trying to defend our human rights.

Rothery

You see the right turn coming up and then you鈥檙e really back of beyond.

Waite

In making this programme we鈥檝e discovered that there are at least four different groups willing to help those on the run. Scattered around Europe, they say they鈥檝e helped hundreds of fugitives.听 It was to 79 year old Brian Rothery that Sarah and James turned. He says they were among the 50 or so people to contact him last year. Most he advised to stay and fight 鈥 10 went on, though, to flee the UK.

Rothery

Within my network in the UK we have three volunteers who operate virtually full time and three here including myself.听 Now in addition to that we have friends, whom we call good Samaritans.听 There鈥檚 a lady in France, there鈥檚 an English lady living in a mountain village in Spain and we did have a lady in Northern Cyprus.

Waite

And do you break the law, would you break the law?

Rothery

I think that if I was asked to choose between the law and helping a family to justly hang on to their children I think I would break the law.

Waite

If you work say with a child that already has a child protection order on it you鈥檝e broken the law 鈥 have you done that?

Rothery

If in the eyes of the law I鈥檝e done it 鈥 yes I have.听 But if in the eyes of the law I鈥檝e helped a parent in trouble that鈥檚 what I鈥檝e done as well 鈥 it depends on one鈥檚 interpretation.

Waite

The growing numbers of British mothers seeking to give birth in Ireland has not gone unnoticed. Last year a High Court judge warned parents that Ireland was not a 鈥檚anctuary鈥 from either Britain鈥檚 social services or its legal system. Fleeing he said was 鈥渇utile鈥 - despite what he called 鈥渃ampaigning groups鈥 like Brian鈥檚.

Have you ever to your knowledge got it wrong 鈥 helped a woman and they turned out to be an unfit mother?

Rothery

Well time will tell.听 That fear is there of course but not yet.听 If protecting one child means damaging innocent parents I will take my chance living in a world full of risk rather than do that because that鈥檚 a world of injustice.听 I do not accept that the government knows best.听 If I thought the state was using draconian methods to take the child I would resist that with my life.

Waite

What makes you think that you know better than social services 鈥 they鈥檙e the experts on this 鈥 but somehow you and your organisation know better do you?

Rothery

Well I鈥檓 very sceptical about the expertise of social services and I use my judgement and I use my experience and my age and I make what best decisions I can 鈥 I use my conscience.

Clip 鈥 YouTube video

Waite

This video posted on YouTube promotes another of the networks we鈥檝e made contact with. If you鈥檙e pregnant and social services proposes to take away your child because of a possible threat of harm in the future a caption says simply 鈥測ou have friends who can help鈥. Friends like 81 year old Ian Josephs.

Josephs

There should not be punishment without crime.听 I mean it sounds obvious but most of these parents they鈥檙e being punished by their children taken when they have not committed a crime.

Waite

Ian Josephs has had concerns about the UK鈥檚 child protection system since he saw it at first hand as a county councillor in Kent in the 鈥70s. From his home today in Monaco he now acts as a middle man putting worried parents in touch with those who might help them to flee, providing advice about where to go, how to get there and how to deal with foreign authorities and on occasion he even provides money.

Josephs

I say well I will refund the travel costs on condition that you ring me up to show me you鈥檝e gone there and you send me a letter from the social services showing they鈥檙e on your case and a letter showing that you鈥檙e pregnant.

Waite

And how do you check to ensure the people that you give help to deserve that help?

Josephs

I can鈥檛 promise that they all do deserve it, it鈥檚 the same thing 鈥 no lawyer can guarantee the innocence of their client but what I do do is ask to see, when I can, the court papers.

Waite

Millionaire Ian Josephs reckons that he鈥檚 personally advised or helped more than a hundred people to flee 鈥 and spent over 拢30,000 of his own money in the process. The trouble with social services, he believes, is that they act all too often on supposition when there is little or no evidence of real risk.

Josephs

Anything is better for these people, anything at all, than losing their baby to adoption and losing their baby for life.

Waite

But surely if there鈥檚 the slightest doubt that there鈥檚 a baby yet to be born maybe may be in danger when they are born well they have to be protected, we can鈥檛 protect them too much?

Josephs

Oh you can because there鈥檚 the slightest doubt that you or I could be, if we go into a car, could be killed tomorrow.听 It鈥檚 too easy to talk vaguely of if you have the slightest doubt.

Clip 鈥 Italian News clip

Waite

Last month Britain鈥檚 social services and that policy of acting on future risk became the focus of the world鈥檚 media. An Italian woman, Alessandra Pacheiri, who鈥檇 planned to spend just a few weeks in England, had suffered a听 breakdown and been 鈥渟ectioned鈥 under the Mental Health Act. Heavily pregnant a court-ordered caesarean took place and her baby was taken into care and then put up for adoption.

Clip 鈥 Italian News clip

From Rome Mrs Pachieri鈥檚 lawyer told us that she will challenge the adoption ruling in court. Michelle Freedman will be watching the result with interest.

She鈥檚 a barrister based in London and has first-hand experience of forced adoption cases, representing parents desperately fighting the system.

Freedman

As a family law barrister I know what goes on.听 There鈥檚 been so many situations where I have sat with clients and we have gone through the local authority evidence with a fine toothcomb and each and every time the clients would look at me and say well that did happen, it just didn鈥檛 happen like that, these are the facts but they鈥檝e twisted it.

Waite

As we鈥檝e heard some parents, including Sarah and James, feel so strongly that their words and actions have been twisted - in their case the noisy argument they had - that their only option is to start new lives in other countries. However, they and parents like them are simply wrong according to Andrew Webb - President of the Association of Directors of Children鈥檚 Services.

Webb

It鈥檚 not possible to either get a care order or an adoption order without proving to a court of law that the child has suffered significant harm or is likely to suffer significant harm.听 I can鈥檛 accept the view that simply on a social worker鈥檚 twisting of words that these orders will be made and there are rights of appeal.

Waite

It isn鈥檛 just parents and those who help them that are critical though when it comes to legal matters pertaining to children, as president of the Family Division, Sir James Mumby is Britain鈥檚 most senior judge. So how does Andrew Webb respond to what 鈥 just four months ago 鈥 Sir James had to say?

Sir James Mumby - Read

We have real concerns, shared by other judges, about the recurrent inadequacy of the analysis and reasoning put forward in support of the case for adoption.

Webb

This is an area where very finely balanced judgements have to be taken and we need to make sure we put a much more robust analysis into every case than we do in some cases but I stand by the quality of social work in the vast majority of cases.

Freedman

I was counsel is a care case in Cambridge.

Waite

For Barrister Michelle Freedman there will always be one case in particular that represents what鈥檚 wrong with the system. Her own. Michelle was literally in the middle of a court hearing, representing a parent fighting to keep their children, when she learned that one of her own children was facing a similar fate. Knowing well, she told me, the way the system operates, she had no hesitation in deciding what to do next.

Freedman

When the judge adjourns for judgements I think we had a two hour adjournment I went to buy suitcases.听 We needed big suitcases 鈥 we were basically running for our lives, we鈥檙e packing our lives into three suitcases and off we鈥檙e going.

Waite

Forty eight hours later Michelle and her two daughters were starting a new life in Israel 鈥 helped, incidentally, by advice from Monaco based Ian Josephs. A care order was granted in their absence and an Interpol alert issued. But after some months, when Michelle was able to show her daughters were doing well in Israel, the local authority agreed to withdraw the order. Michelle is now back working weekdays as a barrister in London, returning at weekends to her children in Israel. But would she ever bring them back into the country?

Freedman

They鈥檙e obviously British citizens but I can鈥檛 no 鈥 no 鈥 I might just be being over-cautious here but they鈥檙e my children, they鈥檙e my children.

Waite

As we've heard, the underground railroads, as one described itself to us, that help fugitive parents are made up primarily of English and Irish expats. But that's starting to change. I boarded the Eurostar to meet a couple who鈥檝e been helped by a Belgian social worker. Again we鈥檝e agreed not to reveal exactly where or who they are.

So this is a scrapbook of Jane.

Marie

Yes.

Waite

A pretty child isn鈥檛 she.

Marie

Yes.听 This one here is where we had her first birthday.

Waite

How old was she when she went for adoption?

Marie

About one and a half.

Waite

Jane is the reason Craig and Marie are now in Belgium. She was first taken into care and then - despite their opposition - eventually adopted. There was no suggestion that they would physically harm the child but the local authority believed they wouldn鈥檛 be able to support Jane emotionally as she grew up or put her needs before their own.

Marie

Just can鈥檛 believe it but we鈥檝e got to accept that she鈥檚 no longer part of our lives.听 You know and you think there鈥檚 got to be something else I can do but there isn鈥檛.听 There鈥檚 a hope that she might find us but sometimes they didn鈥檛 try and find you.

Waite

But it was losing her 鈥 little Jane there 鈥 that determined you two were not going to lose anymore?

Craig

I鈥檝e got tears in my eyes 鈥 it鈥檚 hard to explain.

Waite

Dad Craig told us that he鈥檇 never had any problems with social services before and has a daughter and granddaughter from a previous relationship.听 Marie though - as she openly admits 鈥 has had a more complicated past. She says she鈥檚 repeatedly been involved with the wrong men and as a result has had seven children - most of whom have at some time been in care.听

But since she met Craig, she says, her life has changed. 听Though it鈥檚 far from easy. Now they have a newborn baby, and are living in a country they鈥檝e never visited, where neither of them speaks the language 鈥 though they are learning - and despite Craig鈥檚 efforts he hasn鈥檛 found a job.

You see there鈥檒l be some listeners, I鈥檓 sure, who will be thinking to themselves well actually you鈥檙e putting the baby at a disadvantage living in this hand to mouth way.

Craig

We put him first and he鈥檚 getting everything 鈥 we鈥檒l go without to see him through.听 The family we live with are very good as well 鈥 they won鈥檛 let anything happen.

Thomas

I take contact with people in England to say my home is open.听 I have no money but I have place.

Waite

For the past five months 鈥渉ome鈥 for Marie, Craig and their baby has been with that Belgian social worker we鈥檒l call Thomas.听 He decided to offer shelter to fleeing parents after reports of forced adoption cases appeared in the Belgian media. Because of his job, Thomas knows only too well that sometimes children have to be taken into care but forced adoption he strongly opposes. It鈥檚 too final a solution, he says.

Thomas

What I see, what I read, what I hear 鈥 there is a problem in England.听 When you are a social worker you must take difficult decisions 鈥 always 鈥 but when you take a decision and you can鈥檛 go back, it鈥檚 not a good decision, perhaps it鈥檚 legal in your country, it鈥檚 not moral, it鈥檚 not human.

Waite

And high-level concerns over the UK鈥檚 child protection practices also appear to be growing. Next month a 鈥渇act finding mission鈥 will inquire into British social services for a Council of Europe report. Then in March the European Commission Petitions Committee will debate the wider issue of forced adoption. Doubtless, too, the issue will come up again in Westminster.

Actuality 鈥 Westminster

Hemming

As the minister is aware I鈥檓鈥

Waite

Liberal Democrat MP John Hemming chairs the Justice for Families campaign and has been collating the growing international concern.

Actuality 鈥 Westminster

Hemming

On page seven of the document I have a letter from the Czech Republic saying there鈥檚 a problem.听 On page eight of the document I have a letter from the Spanish government saying there鈥檚 a problem.听 On page nine of the鈥

Waite

Countries like Spain are concerned at the way that nationals of their country are having their children taken into care or even, as with the recent Italian case, put up for adoption whilst they鈥檙e in the UK. And we鈥檝e established that at least six countries have raised concerns directly to the government or government bodies over the way the policy is implemented.听听 One ambassador told us that while forced adoptions should be the exception not the rule, they fear that the reverse could become the case in the UK.

When we contacted the Department for Education, which is responsible for adoption policy, they told us:

Department for Education - Read

We are working with the Foreign Office and Ministry of Justice to consider how other countries can best be engaged when their nationals, resident in the UK, are involved in child protection issues.

And in cases of 鈥榝orced adoption鈥 a court would only dispense with the need for parental consent because:

Department of Education - Read

鈥he parents cannot be found; because they are incapable of giving their consent or because it has reason to believe the welfare of the child requires their consent to be dispensed with.听

As for that 20% rise in the number of 鈥榝orced adoptions鈥 the Department pointed out that there has been a similar rise in uncontested ones.听 As a result last year 7% of children in care in England ended up being adopted - more than in any year since comparable records began more than 20 years ago. A trend that will continue as the department is committed, it says, to finding stable homes for more children in care. And so a trend that will likely see more parents go on the run.

Some of those may well approach MP John Hemming as they have in the past. His advice may be simple but some will find it surprising.

Hemming

In certain circumstances it鈥檚 the sensible thing to do because you face a system which is so biased against the parents, procedurally biased.听 The question is what happens to the child?听 The answer is adoption.

Waite

Do you support parents who flee?

Hemming

I do assist them with advice.

Waite

But some people would find that quite extraordinary 鈥 Liberal Democrat MP, your party鈥檚 in government.

Hemming

Yeah and advice on how to do it entirely lawfully.听 I advice people, actually, to deal with the authorities in the countries they go to.

Waite

But is it right that you in your position?

Hemming

It鈥檚 my job to tell people the truth, so I do.

Waite

But that鈥檚 not the truth, in fact such comments are 鈥渞eckless鈥 according to Andrew Webb of the Association of Directors of Children鈥檚 Services. In his view, the British approach to child protection is one of the most child centric in Europe and is steeped in checks and balances. So how does he explain then the fact that hundreds of parents have already fled the country in fear, if there isn鈥檛 something fundamentally wrong with the system?

Webb

Not necessarily, it may be that they鈥檙e putting their interests above the interests of their children.听 I don鈥檛 accept the term 鈥渇orced adoptions鈥.听 The child is the centre of the focus for the local authority and there is nothing about the journey of the child into adoption that鈥檚 forced.听 What we鈥檙e talking about here is having to make a decision that takes more notice of the interest of the child for the rest of their life than the needs of the parent in the shorter term.听 Now we do have disputes with families about whether harm is real, other disputes about whether the harm is going to be long lasting but all these concerns get tested very rigorously in our legal system.

Waite

And how concerned are you with the action that increasing numbers of parents seem to be taking?

Webb

Any network that鈥檚 set up to work in the interests of parents I would have grave concerns about.听 Every child who鈥檚 uprooted and moved, as a consequence of someone expressing concern, in my mind becomes a child at risk.听 So I am concerned if they鈥檙e doing it. 听But in about 90% of the cases that come to a final care hearing the parent doesn鈥檛 contest whether the harm is real or the risk is real enough.听 So these are rare cases we鈥檙e talking about here.

Waite

Do you ever get it wrong?

Webb

It is possible to get it wrong but often you鈥檒l only know whether you鈥檝e got it wrong with the benefit of hindsight.

Waite

Obviously each case would be a tragedy for a parent who wasn鈥檛 to see a child again in the end through no fault of their own.

Webb

Every case has to be looked at as absolutely unique.听 It鈥檚 not a tick box exercise where you can say easily this was right and that was wrong.

Waite

But of course if social services do get it wrong then a perfectly good parent will perhaps never see their child again after the baby is forcibly taken for adoption. That鈥檚 what worries the judges, the lawyers, the MPs and the other countries all of whom we鈥檝e heard from on the programme. But most of all it worries the parents, like Craig, currently on the run with his partner and new baby in Belgium. They鈥檝e already had one child taken away from them, they told me, and simply couldn鈥檛 face the trauma of seeing another removed from their lives.

Craig

If somebody dies you can grieve and get over, if a child is taken from you you鈥檙e wondering what she鈥檚 doing, how she is, where she is, who she鈥檚 with, is she safe every day, it鈥檚 worse than death and that鈥檚 why we鈥檝e done it.听 We said the only way out is to run.

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